In Loving Memory of
Katelyn "Kate" Nicole Martibello
January 4, 1990 - February 14, 2009

A couple days after Kate died my sister was sitting at her desk at work trying to do her job but having a hard time, crying and thinking of Kate. All of a sudden she said she had this odd feeling that she never had before. It was like someone was standing behind urging her to write these words. She picked up a pen and paper and the words just seemed to flow into her head. Part way through she stopped and began doing her job again but couldn't get rid of the feeling someone was urging her to continue, so she picked up the pen and paper and finished the poem. She said she had no ideas to write a poem, it just happened. (This is her poem for Katelyn below.) It gives us chills to think about it. And also thanks to God.


You came to us gently for such a short time
Like a butterfly softly floating on a summer breeze
You gave love and joy to every flower in your garden
With your sweet smile and beautiful music,
All around you would flourish and grow.
Then all too swiftly - the reason not known,
You floated away into that most majestic garden of all
The music has stopped, the colors are gone,
The rain is unending
Your earthly garden cries.
Now all we must do is watch for the summer day
When we will see your gossamer wings again
When will that sweet summer come?
Friends are flowers in the garden of life
Your flowers miss you sweet butterfly.

My sister holding Kate when she was a baby. This was after Katelyn's christening, my sister is her godmother.

I fell asleep holding Mom's nose.

Kate's Story ~

I'm not sure where to start. I guess I'll begin with her story. I had infertility problems so Kate was my only child. She was our miracle. Kate was a happy and easy baby right from the start. We all adored her and she always brought us joy with her smile and contagious laugh.

These are pics of Kate with my cousin Fred, who was her godfather.
He was so good with her and she adored him.

When Kate was little she took ballet, but as she got older she became a tomboy. She loved playing sports, especially in junior and high school. She played softball, basketball and she ran track.
I think track was her favorite.


Kate also loved play clarinet in the school band. She was in the chorus for awhile and had a sweet voice, but she really liked band better and stuck with playing clarinet in the band and marching band,
even into her first year of college.

Katelyn did quite a lot of traveling. My parents took her to Europe, to England, Ireland, Scotland, France, Germany and I think Holland. She went to Alaska, California, Disneyworld, Bermuda and the Caribbean several times. When she first met people she was a little shy, but once she got to know them she was a real talker.
In fact she could talk your ear off at times!

Orange was definitely her favorite color and she hated pink. Kate liked orange tiger lilies. She had a wonderful boyfriend named Sean, but sadly they broke up a few months before she died.

Katelyn and her boyfriend Sean at a happier time.


We're originally from Queens, New York. It will always be a special place for us, all of NYC. But when she was 7 we moved to Pennsylvania. She was so excited when she graduated to be going away to college. She chose Edinboro University which is all the way up in Erie, Pa. Now I hate the words Erie and Edinboro, they only give us bad memories. Kate was thinking of majoring in photography but then changed to psychology for her second semester. Honestly, she didn't really know what she wanted to be. The college was about 5 hours away from where we live near Scranton Pa. She had broken up with Sean and didn't have any close friends
and she became very lonely and depressed. I was so worried about her, little did I know what was to come.

She played in the marching band there, the clarinet again. She had just begun her second semester when she was invited by some of the girls in the marching band to join a music sorority. I can't think of the name of the sorority now, I'll have to try and find out what it's called. (I did some research, and I believe the sorority is called Sigma Alpha Iota.) At first she didn't really want to join but the girls and me finally convinced her to try out for it. Maybe a couple weeks before she died she got accepted and her whole mood started turning around. I finally saw the Kate that I knew,
excited and happy.

Katelyn and her loving Mom.

This is when the girls in the sorority came to tell Kate she got accepted.

Here is a picture of Kate getting her sorority pin.

It's hard to see in the pictures, but there's a little orange butterfly on Kate's shirt where a pocket would be. When I see that it makes me think it was a sign that she was about to leave us....Kate's favorite color is orange, and I call her my butterfly.

On Valentine's morning she sent my Mom an email telling her how excited she was to be accepted into the sorority. She said she was going to work really hard because she had to keep her grades up to be in the sorority. It was a long email and she ended it by saying "Happy Valentine's Day, love you guys!" Since she didn't have a boyfriend her room mate asked her if she wanted to go out and do something, I think they went to the movies, then I'm not sure where they were going. Erie is a terrible place in the winter, it snows almost every day. Her room mate was driving, I don't know why because Kate didn't really feel safe unless she was driving. Anyway while they were out they slid on black ice into oncoming traffic. Katelyn was the passenger and was killed instantly. Of course my life ended that day also. My parents and I are totally devastated. She was truly the light of our lives. My parents were very close to her,
they thought of her more as a daughter than a granddaughter.

A couple years or so before the accident we went on a family cruise. One night there was a talent show that Katelyn entered and sang the song from the movie Titanic, "The Heart Does Go On". My mom taped it but it's so hard to watch. She had the sweetest voice. She didn't win, a couple of little kids won
I think because people thought they were cute,
but really Katelyn should have won. *;)~ winking ~
I would love it if you can make this the song on Katelyn's web page.

Kate singing the Titanic song.

Our family on the cruise ship.

Mom and Kate posing in front of the ship.

This is a younger photo of Katelyn and her Mom.

Kate and I swam with dolphins, maybe you can put some of them on her page.

"Borrowed Angels"
Performed by Kristin Chenoweth

They shine a little brighter, they feel a little more
They touch your life in ways no one has ever done before
They love a little stronger, they live to give their best
They make our lives so blest, so why do they go so soon?
The ones with souls so beautiful
I heard someone say--

There must be Borrowed Angels, here in this life
They come along, into this world, and make this world bright
But they can't stay forever
'Cause they're heaven sent
And sometimes, heaven needs them back again

They reach a little deeper, they see what's in your soul
And even when they leave you know, you'll never let them go
The world's a little richer, just 'cause they came along
Their love goes on and on, so why do they go so soon?
The ones with souls so beautiful. I heard someone say--

There must be Borrowed Angels, here in this life
They come along, into this world, and make this world bright
They can't stay forever,
'Cause they're heaven sent

How else can you explain why they're here and not here to stay?
I believe there must be, must be

Borrowed Angels, here in this life
They come along, into this world, and make this world bright
But they can't stay forever,
'Cause they're heaven sent
And sometimes heaven needs them back again.
And sometimes heaven needs them back again.

These are four special gifts for Angel Katelyn from my friend Marie.
You can visit her website for her son Rob here ~ Rob Northrop's Site.

To Bury A Child

I always took for granted,
as a parent, Iíd go first,
but somehow in our family
lifeís order got reversed....

I believed the day would come
that you would bury me,
but in my sorrow, I now know
that isnít meant to be.

The wisdom of our Father,
who dwells in heavenís sky,
Is well beyond that of my own.
I shall not question why.

I pray that He will comfort me,
and help my heart to heal.
Only those whoíve lost a child
can know the pain I feel.

In Godís time I know youíll be
back in my arms again.
Donít forget how much youíre loved
and missed, dear child, Ďtil then.
Ron Tranmer ©

I'm going to tell you about the most significant signs my family and I have received from Kate. I know that it's sometimes hard to believe when others say that these kind of things have happened, I've doubted what other people said also. All I can say is that I'm being totally honest. The first may not be that hard to believe. A couple days after Kate died I was going through some boxes in her room. At the bottom of one I found an angel pin on a card that she had bought when my parents took her to Ireland. She never gave it to me and I didn't know that she bought it. On the card there was an Irish blessing that basically said to watch over my Mom. I don't think it was a coincidence
that I found it then.

A few days after losing Kate my sister was sitting at her desk in work. She was trying hard to concentrate, but of course was very upset. She said that all of a sudden she had a feeling like she never felt before. It was like there was someone standing behind her urging her to write down some words. She picked up a pen and paper and these beautiful words came flowing into her head. Then she stopped and put the paper aside. But something was urging her to keep writing and she finished. She had no intention of writing anything, but she wrote the beautiful poem
near the top of this page called Katelyn's Garden.

My Mom has had whiffs of a perfume that Kate probably wore. The next sign I've received is that the lamp in her room goes on by itself. It never happened before we lost her and it usually only goes on
when I'm feeling very sad.

The last sign happened to my dad. Now he's in his early 80's, but he's very healthy, no dementia, and is the most honest person I know. He's also the type of person who would be hesitant to believe these kinds of things. A couple years ago at about 2am on Thanksgiving morning he woke up. As he started to get up he saw the figure of a young girl wearing a white robe. She was smiling at him then just drifted out of the room. My dad really struggled with his faith after Kate died and he prayed to God for a sign. I truly believe that God let Kate or an angel visit him to help comfort him.

Kathy, I want you to know how much I loved the memorial web pages Maria made for your dear Katelyn. I was so touched by them, that I had to give you some special awards for the pages she made in Katelyn's memory. May you have peace. May God keep you in the warmth of His embrace and comfort your heart as you must now live in the new normal of your life. I am very confident in what God has told us that we will see them again.
Bless you my friend. God's peace and love to you.
Ann, Laurasmom
11/5/68 - 10/19/02


Please also visit Merry Christmas From Our Angel Katelyn!

And also, please visit Happy Birthday Our Angel Katelyn!

A friend can hear a tear drop.

This webpage is created
In Loving Memory of Katelyn Nicole Martibello

on July 9, 2014

Last updated: January 28, 2017
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Thank you to my dear friend Ann for Katelyn's Butterfly images
and also for the special Angel for Katelyn's web page.
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