In Loving Memory of
Connie Holly Pate
December 2, 1986 - February 28, 1998

I will share with you more about our wonderful and only daughter Connie Holly Pate.
I write in purple because she loved the color and always bought things purple,
but she never hardly wore purple she just said it is such a beautiful color. She was so beautiful.

We had Connie after 10 years of marriage. We traveled alot with Alan's job and just were not ready to have our kids yet. We always said when we have kids
we will never use a babysitter for we will be ready to have kids and we will only go where kids can go. That is exactly what we did. Connie was born
about 7 weeks early because of me lifting too much weight at one time. She was born healthy and wonderfully made at 4lb 8oz. She stayed in the hospital
long enough to gain a little weight and lungs developed a little more. Then homeward bound she came, how beautiful she was.
Our sweet baby girl and the beginning of 11 great!!!!! years.

She loved everything she did -- dolls, playdough, gymnastics, swimming, outdoors, and bicycles.
She loved to ride bikes with her twin brothers Ron & Max,
and they spent hours on them.

One evening we took them down the road to ride in a field that had some jumps and tracks, and Connie Holly took a spill on her bike. With that she got up,
said she did not want to ride any more and just hung around her daddy and the car radio while the boys kept riding. That evening she complained
of a tummy ache that would come and go, so I gave her pepto-bismol and rubbed her back, played a game of yatzee and read from Ephesians.
We fell asleep around 10:00 pm, and at 11:00 pm she was unconscious.
I picked her up not knowing what was about to happen.

I called 911 and began CPR. I could not believe it when they said check her air way. I could not find her tongue,
she bit down so hard I could not get my finger out. I began CPR
then they were here in just a couple minutes giving her life support telling us to follow them to hospital, just unbelievable.

Our precious Connie Holly went into the hospital with a ruptured spleen, which she died from 18 hours later. A ruptured spleen is something you can live with or without and my daughter had to die. After a spleen has been ruptured, you have about six hours before your oxygen starts to be taken from your brain
and just about that time is when I rubbed her back, and she and I fell asleep. They did surgery, but she never responded to any thing
and 18 hours later her heart stopped beating.
Our baby girl gone! I could not beleive this -- not my perfect family, not my perfect little girl.

I wish I would have been educated more as a parent. I had to take a CPR class to bring her as a premature baby home from the hospital but did not know that a little spleen that sits under your left lower rib could kill you. I feel so responsible. You see us mothers think we can save our children from any thing, anything at all. We are MOTHERS, that is our job. We do so many things for our kids. We just save them by the minute by doing the job GOD gave us. How could I just
give my child pepto-bismol and tell her she would be alright in the morning? Our baby girl died in our bed getting her back tickled.

These six special gifts for Angel Connie Holly are from my friend Marie.
You can visit her website for her son Rob here ~ Rob Northrop's Site.

I miss my little daughter, friend, playmate, hairfixer, makeup maker, story teller, gymnist, brothers's best friend and companion, in so many things
we take for granted daily. We miss you sissy and we will never forget not a single thing about you. See you in HEAVEN.



I wanted to let everyone know that the Fontana School District planted a new tree for Connie on Tuesday Feb. 3 at 10:00 am in front of the junior high school. The tree that had been planted in 1999 was being uprooted because of demolition to a building on the school grounds. I am grateful but also very emotional
with this being our 11th year anniversary. As you all know Connie left when she was 11 years old "went to HEAVEN" it is very difficult to think
that Connie has been gone as long as she was alive.
We miss her very much as much as we missed her the first year, first day....sigh.
Thank you all for loving us through this time in our life.
Alan & Janet
Ron & Max

We've been decorating our memorials for our precious daughter Connie Holly, here are some pics.
Still not sure what to do on her HEAVEN day February 28....
Tree @ Fontana Junior High School & Green Acres


Remembering our Connie Holly...

This is a beautiful and loving gift for Angel Connie from my dear friend, Carol, mom to Angel Michael.

But A Moment

You'll always be my child-I think of you each day,
Even though you must remain so very far away.
A love as strong as this, I've never felt before;
But you had to go away-up through heaven's door.
You'll never have to suffer, or feel pain or hate,
just peace and love and happiness-
God has given you this fate.
I hope that you can feel just how much I care;
And, When my days are over, in a flash-I will be there.
Pure unbounding joy! We'll never have to part.
You'll be right by my side-And not just in my heart.
But, until that day, when my dream is real-
I think I understand, just how I should feel...
"Mom, I am fine!" this must be what you would say-
"Please don't be so sad, we'll meet again one day:
I'm with God above - so don't cry for me,
Our parting is but a moment compared to eternity."


In the silence Mom you hear me,
In the silence I am here.
In the silence you can feel me,
In the silence it is clear........
That my spirit hasn't left you,
I am just a thought away,
You can see me in the shadows,
Anytime you look my way.
Look for me in the sunshine,
And in the stars at night.
In the wind, trees and flowers,
Everything that is in sight.
Talk to me, say my name,
Know that I'm still here,
In my death I have a new life,
And one day it will be clear.
So talk to me and look for me
In everything you do,
For I haven't gone so far away,
I'm really right next to you.
~ Author unknown

I would like to add these pics to Connie Holly Pate's web page... I just can't believe 18 years have past by
and she has outlived her years on earth in Heaven. I miss her so very much.


Pictures below for our Connie Holly's 12th HEAVEN day...
Always remembering our sweet daughter.


I wanted to share Connie Holly's HEAVEN day with my friends. We went down to Hunting Beach to watch the Kites and see the crosses & flags
in honor of our soldiers in Irag. We had a bonfire and watched the sunset. It felt pretty good that day. Amazing how time heals.
But the hole in my heart is still there. I love you Connie!


Hello Friends, I just wanted to share my Birthday weekend pictures at our conference in Costa Mesa. There were 110 moms who attended.
What a blessing to serve in the Circle of Love!


Friday night I had a group of new bereaved moms, 4 of whom lost their children to Cardiac Arrest within the past year.
They were all under the age of 17 and all athletes.


I am thankful that I have come far enough along my grief that I can be helpful, and give a little HOPE through my LORD JESUS and HIS PROMISES
to these newly bereaved moms. I'am thankful for all the prayers that went out this week for me and other moms who have children in HEAVEN...

Performed by Josh Groban

Remember, I will still be here
As long as you hold me, in your memory

Remember, when your dreams have ended
Time can be transcended
Just remember me

I am the one star that keeps burning, so brightly,
It is the last light, to fade into the rising sun

I'm with you
Whenever you tell, my story

Remember, I will still be here
As long as you hold me, in your memory
Remember me

I am the one voice in the cold wind, that whispers
And if you listen, you'll hear me call across the sky

As long as I still can reach out, and touch you
Then I will never die

Remember, I'll never leave you
If you will only
Remember me

Remember me...

Remember, I will still be here
As long as you hold me
In your memory

Remember, when your dreams have ended
Time can be transcended
I live forever
Remember me

Remember me
Remember... me...

The song playing on here is called Fly With the Angels, music and lyrics copyrighted by Paul W. Searcey,
performed by East Ensemble 2000, East Junior High, Casper WY

Our Christmas Angels

Please also visit Our Connie Holly's Photographs and Memories

Please also take the time to check this out ~
Connie's "Groovy" Smilebox

And please also visit this page for Connie's Aunt Jeannie ~
In Loving Memory of Jeannie Dru Bowen

Connie touches my heart
She has the sweetness of an angel
God Bless and Keep you on this life of deep sadness

With Love for Connie
We honor and remember you
Ann, Laurasmom

"It is my honor to present you with my Heaven's Own Award
because a young sweet child like Connie truly belonged to Heaven.
She has left you with the memory of her love
and she will be waiting for you.
May God always bless you and your family
in one of life's most difficult journeys on this earth."
With Love and Prayers
Ann, Laurasmom

In Memory of Sweet Connie Holly

What a beautiful little angel with that smile so bright
You have touched my heart like an angel of light
Your journey was brief, leaving hearts filled with grief
Mommy is crying and cannot release the essence of you
And each new day is so hard to get through
Her heart will heal when she sees you again
So just be her guardian angel till then
With Love
Ann, Laurasmom

Dear Janet
I am very sorry for your loss.
My ANGEL Lee wrote many poems, this one was very special to me,
I would love to share it with you.


Softness of the skin
Sweetness in the smell
Nectar of the fruit
Tender in the heart
Dancing in the eyes
Uplifting in the smile
Tickle of the touch
Joining in the love

Truth in the speech
Love in the laughter
Primal in the scream
Soft in the whisper
Quick in the mind
Fair in the sentence
Brave in the confrontation
Joining in the love

Graceful in the sleep
Careful in the search
Deep in the sorrow
Strength in the sickness
Giving of thy self
Rich in the health
Kind in the giving
Joining in the love

Written By
Lee Henry Aguilera
Sue-Anne's ANGEL

In Loving Memory of Lee Henry Aguilera

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Tina's Memorial Page

"I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Connie. God only knows what is going to happen from one minute to the next. I can hardly believe your story. But then again, over the last 12 years since my angel passed
i've read quite a few stories of our angels passing so quickly, while others remain here being totally healthy and juvenile delinquents. We will never understand,
and i guess we aren't meant to. Know that you are not alone in your grief. My heart bleeds for you."

My Angel Laurie

A small gift for the Pate family's Angel Connie. May God bless her always.

A friend can hear a tear drop.

This webpage is created
In Loving Memory of Connie Holly Pate

on August 3, 2004
Last updated: February 23, 2017
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